CBT is BS if it’s saying your sensory reality or the discrimination/bullying isn’t real and needs a reframe. FULL STOP. Saying otherwise is not helpful. Let me be clear. It can be traumatizing. That’s the problem.

You are just too sensitive to sound. Maybe it’s your hearing. You have noise anxiety. It’s not the sound because there is no sound. You are overreacting to something that isn’t there. Did your parents scream when you were younger?

This is the BS therapists say. And they usually end up ignoring “the topic” because they don’t know how to handle sensory issues. Except to tell you it’s not real. How’s that for medical gaslighting? How’s that for causing trauma?

FULL STOP.

Oh, it’s not just sensory stuff. They do it with lots of things, including discrimination. They do it with burnout, and other things OUTSIDE OF THE PERSON’S CONTROL that causes chronic stress. You are imagining things. Everything is fine…except your thoughts.

Stop thinking negatively. Change the thought, and you’ll be fine. Stay in the present. That’s just an assumption. How do you know it’s true? Is that a helpful thought? Change your mindset. Who cares what Gerry thinks about you?

Um. Gerry is my boss…?????? or my landlord, or a coworker who is very close to my manager. But whatever. Who cares until I’m fired or homeless?

Have these people ever experienced life? Not my life.

CALL IT WHAT IT IS. Or keep pretending like everyone else…and it’s gaslighting. Causing trauma. Hurting people. FOR LIFE.

Nice to see this is acceptable to the majority. See, I know the problem. I don’t need someone who knows nothing to tell me the freaking issue! I know my body/mind wasn’t meant for this world, so…come again.

No, therapist, I’m not withdrawing from people because I’m depressed or avoidant or both. WHAT? How can these people be so wrong? Do they listen? Or just follow the playbook?

Interesting how they have one answer for everything. A means, B means…I could do CBT with someone (and possibly be wrong) in my sleep. But not being social in the normal way isn’t always related to withdrawing due to anxiety or depression. Guess that didn’t make their textbook.

It can be a healthy move for an autistic adult to have boundaries around people. I can’t figure out why, though. Hmmmm. After all, people are so nice! There’s a big gap in insight and knowledge if people can’t figure this out.

No therapist ever helped me. Only caused harm.

Never got an apology. It wouldn’t solve anything, but it’s “the least” they can do.

They have some nerve thinking anything when they know absolutely nothing. Amazing. No insight into “the others.” All I get told is how self-aware I am and NO HELP. They can’t seem to offer anything other than that, so nope, therapy is not for me. Especially CBT, which is the most common, even when people offer other things like somatic therapy.

No time to go into somatic therapy today. I don’t feel anything in any part of my body. I’m traumatized or just autistic. No one can figure that out, so I just exist. I would like to thank the medical community for doing absolutely nothing. AKA, not even “the least.”

Therapists, doctors, clinicians…whoever are doing the medical gaslighting. Call it what it is or keep adding to the problem. Blame only “the man” and not the therapist. It’s 2026…what is their excuse again? Why does this continue?? Because no one is holding anyone accountable. And they haven’t learned anything.

I’m holding them accountable. And I see no one else is. Causing more trauma. Continue the cycle. Every action has a reaction. Unacceptable is what it is. Stop making excuses for these people.

• They can’t help it.
• They don’t know anything.
• They can’t think.
• They have no time.
• They don’t have the ability to understand complex things.
• They aren’t even aware of what’s going on.
• There isn’t enough money.
• They can’t put two and two together.
• Trump!

Oh, okay. Wish they would give regular vermin the benefit of the doubt. I don’t see them doing that. Interesting to see who is always held accountable and who isn’t. It says everything.

I didn’t even go into how they make wrong diagnoses. MY GOD. I guess most people don’t know what it’s like to be treated for a condition you don’t have for decades. TRAUMATIC. But they don’t know, so they can’t possibly empathize. (not how empathy works, btw).

And the doctors prescribing medicine for a condition you don’t have. Wow. That’s not harmful either, right? They are at fault too, but I’m only discussing CBT, and most therapists can’t prescribe medicine. But some are doctors. Another post for doctors might be coming soon. I have to do a post on “treatment-resistant depression.”

Let these people continue to harm people because they truly can’t help it. I almost feel bad for them.

P.S.

From a study published today:

Autism in adulthood remains underrecognized across psychiatric settings

They don’t even know autistic kids turn into adults, so…. SAD. Another big issue. No one is being held accountable, but people are talking about it, FWIW.

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This was supposed to be a different entry, but oops. I let thoughts get in the way again. If I stopped thinking, I would probably be fine. See? I get it.

I’m so self-aware.

What I Did This Week

Music of the Week

Books of the Week

Finished reading a few books since I last posted:

• Darling Girls by Sally Hepworth (Fiction) My rating: ★★★ (really 3.75 stars) Started off with a great premise but I didn’t love the ending.
• A Secret Worth Keeping by Drew Strickland (Fiction) My rating: ★★★★ (four stars) Readers didn’t love this book and I don’t know why. I went in with low expectations and ended up really liking it. Quick read.
• The New Wife by Sue Watson (Fiction) My rating: ★★★★ (four stars) I started this as an audiobook, then finished it on Kindle. I thought it might get too soap opera-ish but it didn’t go that route.

Quote of the Week

Nothing was your own
except the few cubic
centimetres inside your
skull.

1984
George Orwell