I hate everyone. People suck. Blah. Blah. Survived the hurricane. Barely. I didn’t really know all this was happening. I haven’t been sleeping, so I may have sent some strange emails. I hate that I have to clean that up. But I’m going to take nap first. Hopefully.
But here’s some advice for extroverts:
First, you need to accept that people are different. You are social. He doesn’t need the stimulation. Talking takes energy that he may or may not have. He’s your family. Can you adjust? When you know you are going to be alone with him, maybe read a book or a magazine, or if you feel okay leaving, leave.
At home and around family, you want to be able to be yourself without being judged by our extrovert culture. He would probably try to be fake if he didn’t like you, but your family. You probably show people that you like someone talking. To him, that’s performative.
Please don’t take people’s personalities or ways of being personally. I suggest also reading a book by an introvert trying to help introverts feel like human beings in this world where we are criticized so much. I think you will learn a lot. When he’s at home and not exhausted, he talks. Home is also a comfort. He knows them 100%. So there’s way less energy to communicate. You may still seem nonfamiliar. That’s not bad. But unless you live with him, that probably won’t change.
But your son-in-law will probably never be chatty with you. He doesn’t chat. Your daughter sounds excellent for not trying to change him. Everyone wouldn’t be that way.
If this gets published, I will delete this. Unless they edit it a lot. Back to work. I am barely here. Can’t think. Need sleep.